- Can you coach children?
Yes, it’s easier to coach children because they are more open to learning new ways of being, doing and seeing without all the limiting beliefs that perhaps some adults have. Having to unlearn the beliefs and ways of doing things that no longer serve us when we are adults can be a lot harder.
- How does coaching work?
I make coaching for children seem like they are just enjoying some ‘me’ time talking about them they usually think it’s a lot of fun as well being a safe place to share their stuff. The first coaching session is about getting to know each other and discovering where coaching is required. I usually discuss this with the parent beforehand; however I work from the child’s perspective. This helps set goals and work towards them. Children learn best when they play, so coaching can be drawing, activity sheets, games, props or simply plain old fashioned talking. Anything that helps a child figure out their own solutions or ways of overcoming their troubles.
- How do I know if coaching is for my child?
I believe coaching is for everybody. Although, if I’m 100% sure the child does not want coaching or it isn’t right for them, I will say so. Having a good rapport between coach and client is what at the heart of coaching success. If your child does not warm to me or is resistant to coaching, the refund policy applies. (see Terms of Service section on REFUNDS.) It is important that your child wants to come to coaching otherwise it will not work. A little resistance or fear of the unknown can be expected, however if they refuse point blank to come, it will be a waste of everybody’s time and money. You know your child better than anybody, so discuss with them before hand and gauge their reaction before making your first appointment.
- How many sessions will my child need and how often will they need them?
Most clients opt to have weekly sessions. Each session is 50 minutes long. The average client usually stays with me for 6 – 8 sessions. The minimum number of sessions is 4 and is bought as a Coaching bundle. Coaching is a process and in isolation one or two sessions is ineffective. The client can then chose to continue with follow up sessions. All clients are encouraged to call or email me between sessions if something important and timely comes up. These brief “check-ins” are free.
- How can I prepare my child for coaching?
Coaching is not therapy or counselling. Its success lies in setting future goals and finding a way to reach them. This can be anything from changing behaviour to tackling something new and different. I find using positive analogies that your child can relate to work well. e.g. comparing me to a Sports Coach who is helping an athlete train for a marathon or a Football Coach who ensures a player is top of his game before a match. In this way, a Life Coach ensures you are the happiest in your daily life and can help you overcome anything that troubles you. If your child is unhappy, I would focus on how coaching could make him or her feel better. “This lady we are going to see can help you feel happier at school and help you cope with those people who are not being very kind to you or help you sleep at night so you are not tired.”
- What if coaching doesn’t work for us?
I’m confident that coaching will have a positive impact on your child and subsequently, the rest of the family. For this reason, I offer a 100% guarantee and a refund for any unused sessions will be given to dissatisfied customers. Few clients continue for six months or more, because they enjoy the weekly boost learning more about themselves. I love it when clients are able to see results sooner than expected and prefer to give people tools they can use to keep moving forward after they have finished working with me.
- Will I be privy to what is discussed with my child?
What is discussed in the coaching sessions is between myself and the child unless the child is breaking the law or in danger. I do encourage all children to share with their parents what they are working on during coaching sessions (with a 90% success rate) as their parents can then support them outside of the coaching session.
- What can I expect from coaching?
Coaching is a way of identifying what is not working now and how a plan can be put in place and practical steps taken to get to where the child needs to be. Children are very resourceful in a safe and positive environment and can work through their own challenges. This is done at the child’s pace and will depend very much on the child as to how long they stay in coaching for. However it’s worth noting, that coaching is a process and not a magic wand. It requires commitment, open honest communication and effort from all parties (coach, coachee and parent). There are many success stories about coaching has helped other families flourish on my blog and you can also read what they are saying about me.
- Where do you coach from?
Due to the rapid growth of my coaching business, I am no longer able to conduct home visits. Instead, I have coaching rooms in Weybridge and Walton.
Saturday Mornings Only: Natural Therapies Clinic, 30 Monument Green Weybridge, Surrey KT13 8QW. The clinic is located on the green opposite The Ship Hotel and along from Pizza Express. Down the long side of the green is a row of houses with a dentist at either end and we are in the middle next to the lilac painted house. There are double yellow lines outside of the clinic but you can drop your child off and go and park. You can park opposite Pizza Express or in Waitrose off the main High Street (turn right by Café Nero and follow the road round to the back of Waitrose). Please note there is no receptionist. This means that I will be in session and unable to answer the door if you arrive early. I appreciate your co-operation with this as it makes for a smoother transition between clients and also respects the privacy of those families who wish to remain anonymous.
Monday & Wednesday Evenings: Monkey Puzzle Nursery, 3 Ashburton House, Monument Green, Weybridge, Surrey KT13 8QR. The Nursery is located next to the Ship Hotel. You can park on the premises. There is an entrance to the car park down the right hand side of the building. Please use the side entrance to the building and not the front door.
Reserve Room: Walton Business Centre, 44/46 Terrace Road, Walton-on-Thames KT12 2SD. I am at the end of a parade of shops along from the Co-Op. You can park outside if you get lucky or down any of the surrounding residential roads. When you arrive at the front door go up the stairs directly in front of you. Turn right and follow a long corridor to the end. The meeting room is straight ahead.
10. What do parents get from coaching?
As with your children, what you put into coaching is what you get back. Coaching is not a magic wand and I cannot ‘fix’ your child. This may seem like a strange thing to say but I want to manage your expectations. It’s important to convey my intention which is to help your child understand themselves, feel comfortable in their own skin, find coping strategies, strengthen your child’s resourcefulness and resilience to life’s challenges. During this process, you are likely to be involved and asked to do some soul searching yourself. After all you cannot expect your child to mop up after them, if you haven’t gone there yourself. I will not break your child’s confidentiality with exception (see Terms of Service section on PRIVACY & CONFIDENTIALITY) but I can update you on what we are working on and how you can support that outside of the coaching room. For those of you on the 4+2 Programme I will send you useful articles and offer emotional support and practical guidance. You will join your child in two of the session and if appropriate more. I have previously facilitated family sessions to address issues which affect the whole family. Examples of this would be: anger, miscommunication, disconnection, sibling rivalry, establishing new routines and rituals.
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There are a few ways you can work with me. Click on the pictures below to find out what you are looking for. I specialise in working with children, however I have successfully coached adults too.