It’s Halloween – what ghosts and skeletons are hiding in your cupboard?

Are you ready for Halloween?

I’m ready with my bag of sugary goodies for when the Trick or Treaters knock on my door.  Although, I’m not quite sure how many treats will be left for them at this rate!  I’m quickly munching my way through my Cadbury’s Halloween Variety Tub as I blog.

It’s time for Halloween!

Costumes, decorations, games and recipes.  Pumpkin soup warms the soul as the clocks go back and our evenings become darker and shorter.  At night time, our fears become magnified and what may have been playing on your mind during the day can become out of control and scarily real.

It’s not real though

Just like we say to our kids ‘It’s make-believe, it’s only in the movies, there’s no such thing as monsters under your bed!’  Really it’s just your mind working overtime.

What is your mind saying to you at bedtime?

My mind sometimes taps into my greatest fears and in the darkness they come alive.  See if you recognise any of these:

  • I can’t do this or I should do this
  • It’s not my fault
  • If only so and so hadn’t happened
  • This is so hard and I’m struggling to make it right
  • I don’t know what to do to make it right
  • I’m focusing on what’s not right and not what is
  • I’m waiting for something to change
  • I’m disappointed by what somebody has said or done
  • I am afraid of what will happen in a situation that feels uncontrollable – I am powerless
  • I am worried about not being able to handle it

I can’t switch my mind off and however hard I try, my fears rattle about in my head eating into my precious sleep time and robbing me of my power.

Stand up to the fear that is ruling your mind

Fear keeps us stuck.  It is a pointless and powerless emotion.  It stops us from moving forward and living the life we deserve.  Living in the present moment and not in past or worrying about the future, is a good starting point to banish those night time fears.  And it all starts with your thoughts.

Change your language and the way you speak to yourself

I bet you would never speak to a friend or somebody you loved this way.  Beating yourself up for this and that.  Please be kind to yourself and know that can handle anything that life chucks at you.  Believe that whatever you are scared about will work out just fine.

  • I can’t do this or  I should do this becomes I won’t do this or I could do this
  • It’s not my fault becomes I’m totally responsible
  • If only so and so hadn’t happened becomes next time I’m going to
  • This is so hard and I’m struggling to make it right becomes life’s an adventure and a learning experience
  • I don’t know what to do to make it right becomes I know I can handle it and I will find a way
  • I’m focusing on what’s not right becomes I’m focusing on what I love about my life and what I’m lucky to have
  • I’m waiting for something to change becomes I live in the now
  • I’m disappointed by what somebody has said or done becomes I will go with what is
  • I am afraid of what will happen in a situation that feels uncontrollable – I am powerless becomes I let go and trust that it will work out for everybody’s highest good
  • I am worried about not being able to handle it becomes I know that I have everything I need to deal with it in the best way possible

Become aware of your thoughts – what we focus our attention on grows

So if we give our fears anymore head space than they are entitled to, they will just get bigger and bigger.  However, if we choose to think differently, then the good stuff will take over and all will be well.  I make it sound easy and I know we have a million thoughts every day.  It’s impossible to filter them all out, however having an awareness of how we speak to ourselves is the first step towards change.

A problem shared is a problem halved

Reach out and talk to somebody you trust about what you are scared of or worried about.  It will be a load off your mind and free you up to concentrate on the stuff that really matters.

Share your fears and worries here to banish your ghosts and skeletons forever!

Happy Halloween.  Enjoy your treats! 🙂

SmileyCoach recommends reading ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’ by Susan Jeffers

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Comments

  1. The dark sides will never volunteer to disappear. You have to work at it by facing those, and lifecoaches are a great support when you are ready to face the dark side. It has taken me a long time to discover all the skeletons and there might still be a few hiding in a tiny corner. But having pushed and worked them out of my life has made me lighter and happier. Ready for the Halloween lights and the sweet treats!
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  2. Aaah thanks M. Yes Happy Halloween to you too. Enjoy all the treats and your pumpkin. x
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