That is not a good place to be. I know the bills needs to be paid, however your life is merely an existence when you have no passion for what you do.
Wouldn’t it be great to wake up every day knowing that you were going to spend the day doing something you love. Something that makes you feel alive, happy and excited?
Last week one of my clients handed in her notice. I’m so proud of her. She took a different path and left a very well paid job to follow her dreams. Amazing! Her decision was not made on a whim or through frustration or anger, it was a very considered one; and one that we had explored in detail during our life coaching sessions together.
How can you tell if you are stuck in a rut?
No matter how motivated or driven you are, like most people you will go through a period of being stuck in a rut. Life becomes unfulfilling and your energy levels drop. You’ve tuned out of something you were once interested in and zoned out of anything related to it. You can’t make decisions about where to go next, but you know you don’t want to be where you are now. Your health is suffering, you feel resentful as your heart is no longer in it and you stop dreaming about what is possible. In fact you are just about able to make it through what is.
Is it time for you to explore your options and maybe start the new year with a new job?
Here, you can read about my client’s life coaching experience and how valuable it has been to completely changing direction in her career. I believe this happened because she was honest enough to fess up and say she was very unhappy about work. I also believe this happened because she was committed enough to herself and coaching. She would turn up, give 100%, do the work and make it happen. She used to say ‘I’ve come this far, so I may as well carry on!!!’ This is her story:
‘On the whole I consider myself a positive person who enjoys life. For some or other reason someone must have decided that it was time to test my strength and threw some rather trying events at me over a period of 2 years. I like to think that I handled each one of them and that I was strong enough to carry on my day to day life without any outside help.
I was so unhappy in my job and I didn’t know how to change things
Yet, what I found once things settled down again, was that I could no longer handle the fact that I was so unhappy in my job and I didn’t know how to change things – I had the distinct feeling that I didn’t want to continue in my current career path, yet I didn’t know what else I could be doing. I felt stuck and frustrated.
A colleague whole-heatedly recommended life coaching
I was talking to a colleague and the subject of life coaching came up – she had been to a life coach herself and it had helped her so much at the time, that she recommended it whole-heartedly. There and then, I decided to have a look whether there were any life coaches in my area. After reading about each life coach and what they were about, I decided to contact Lisa.
It was strangely therapeutic pouring my heart out to somebody I didn’t know
I was a little apprehensive before my first appointment - a discovery session of 2 hours. This was a session where we got to know each other and from there I could decide whether I was comfortable working with Lisa. The session went well – it was strangely therapeutic pouring my heart out to someone who isn’t a close friend or family member. Lisa made me feel at ease and I knew that I would be happy working with her, so I booked further sessions.
In the weeks that followed we explored my career options and identified my core values. I had to do research into areas I could see myself establishing a new career in and one night this lead to a lightbulb moment, where I suddenly realised that I was getting really excited about a particular career path I was looking into. It was something I had always enjoyed as a hobby, just never thought about it as a career. Funny how sometimes we just don’t see the wood for the trees!
Like exercise you need to keep going on a regular basis
The prospect of changing your career and starting something new is exciting, yet completely scary at the same time and the niggly voice in your head sometimes takes over and questions what you’re doing. You have to train yourself to override the negative talk and knowing how takes practice. Lisa recommended books. I bought the audiotape versions so that I could listen to these in my car to and from work every day. I cannot emphasise how much they helped me in changing my mind-set. Like exercise, you have to keep at it on a regularly, but it’s so worth it! I still listen to them on a daily basis.
I’ve built up the courage to throw myself into my new chosen career path
After almost 6 months of Lisa’s tireless support and help, I’m proud to say that I’ve built up the courage to leave my current job at the end of the year and I’m going to throw myself into my new chosen career path. I don’t want to stay were I am and have to live with ‘what if’s’ and ‘I wish I had’s’. I’m under no illusion that it will be tough – I have a lot to learn and the economic climate isn’t great, however I’m passionate about what I want to do and with the right people by my side and a willingness to work hard, I have a strong belief that I can make my new career a success.
‘I can’t put into words how grateful I am to you Lisa – Thank you!’
If you would like to talk to me about changing something in your life that is making you feel stuck, frustrated, lost or fed up, please give me a call now on 07810 540242
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